Your Ideal Day

I can even list all the books and blogs and other self-improvement sources that have stressed the importance of going through the exercise of writing down your ideal day. Well, admittedly, I had never made the time to do it before – I had just shortcutted it by imagining my ideal day on several occasions.

However, that shortcut fails for a number of reasons. When you have to write something down, you have to put actual words to it, whereas in your daydream, things can be kind of amorphous concepts. For example, I had to write down exactly what my house would smell like, what music would be playing, what my house would look and feel like. This is a thousand times more helpful on giving you a clear picture of your goals than just imagining them is (though visualization can be a handy tool, I just suggest writing it down as well for extra clarification).

Now why is this exercise so crucial? Two reasons. First, the slightly woo-woo reason: for the universe to be able to help you achieve your goals, you have to give it a crystal clear picture of what those goals are. (For the less hippified reader, all I’m saying is that for YOU to achieve your goals, it’s best to have a clear picture of where you’re heading, so as to find the most efficient path there).

But the second reason is why said exercise appears on my blog today: if you compare your current life to your ideal life and there are some big differences, those areas may be ones in which a quit may be beneficial. For example, if your ideal life is on a farm with some baby goats, you may want to quit living in downtown New York. Or if you envision a life as a painter, you may want to consider leaving your job as an accountant.

So give it a try. Be VERY specific. I used the following list of questions from Ben Greenfield’s Blog post on this exercise as a guide:

-Where would you live?

-What would your house look like?

-What would it smell like?

-What time in the morning would you wake up?

-What would you do in the morning?

-What would you think about in the morning?

-What would you have for breakfast?

-Where would you go for the first part of the day?

-What would you have for lunch?

-Who would you eat with?

-Who would your friends be?

-What kind of conversations would you have with your friends?

-What are your friends like?

-What would you do for personal fulfillment?

-What life purpose would you strive towards?

-What would your business be?

-What time would you start work?

-What would you do in your business each day?

-What are your clients like?

-What’s your relationship like with your spouse and your family?

-What would you do for family time?

-What would you eat for dinner?

-What would you talk about at dinner?

-What would you do at night?

-Who would you spend your time with?

-What would your thoughts be as you went to sleep?


The answers I came up with were often surprising, and led to a lot of introspection. I hope the exercise does the same for you.

Let me know what you found! Are there any areas you may need to quit?

If so, you know where to find me:)

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